Circumstances Reveal Who You Are

August 2, 2010

I used to use a little humor in my keynote speech by talking about dealing with adversity, and then I would ask the audience a question: Do you know when I’m at my best?

The audience would guess something like, “when you are tested and overcome circumstances?” I would say, “No, I’m at my best when everything goes my way.” 

After a few laughs the audience would recoginze the truth in that statement. All of us want things to go our way and we are happy when circumstances are of our choosing.

However, the opportunity for growth often presents itself through difficulties and unwanted circumstances.
I call this place “The Gap.”

If you are committed to personal growth there will almost always be a gap between where you are and where you want to be.  The visual I use in my Stop Your Drama Methodolgy is that of a rowboat going to an island. If the journey is 5 miles away, there is not so much drama. If the journey is 500 miles away there is more opportunity for drama. In other words, the larger the gap, the more potential for drama.

Here are some truths to help you manage those difficult times in the gap.

1. Know what is required
Do a little planning and research before jumping out there too far. You can’t get to the island 5000 miles away with a rowboat, no team and no map. Know what you need in time, money, and resources before you make such a big commitment, otherwise you are not going to be equipped to handle the drama in such a big gap.

2. Chunk it down
Whether you are working by yourself, or leading a team you can manage the gap more effectively by making designated stopping places. In other words, row to the island 50 miles away and stop on an island to celebrate. Then get back in that boat and row toward your island. Your team will stay motivated if they feel a sense of accomplishment along the way.

3. Make a game of it
Instead of resisting the drama in the gap, be prepared to see how you can handle it with grace. Make it a part of your inner journey of growth. Practice patience if you are normally impatient. See how long you can go without complaining. Make yourself bigger than your circumstances and see how this improves your self-esteem.

4. Realize that life is lived in the gap
Realize that drama in the gap will not equal success on the island. If you are miserable while on the way to accomplishing your goal, chances are you aren’t going to be much happier once you get to “the island.” Keep in mind that life is always lived in the gap and drama in the gap will not equal real success on the island.


Stop Holiday Drama

December 22, 2009

Want to get the Free Audio?

If  you want to get access to the free audio download, go to this web page and register. The audio will automatically appear after you sign up, as long as you do so before 2010.  Here’s the link!

Content Rich Learning Points

  • Identify the familiar patterns of drama
  • Discern the three components common in all drama
  • Why clarity is key
  • How to know when you get off course
  • 7 useful tips to master your mindset
  • Communication techniques
  • Practical exercises to do before the holidays

What is Your Holiday DRAMA Question?

Do you have a “holiday drama” question? If so, just ask me your holiday drama question in this blog and I’ll do my best,  using the Stop Your Drama Methodology to give you some new insights and clarity.

Want to read the questions asked me during the seminar? Click here to download a 20 page Q and A document. I’m sure you’ll see yourself in at least one of these questions.