5 Reasons You Don’t Have Enough Time

May 20, 2008

The biggest victim story today is “I don’t have time.” Now before you get angry with me, know that I’m in the same boat. I’m just accustomed to having what I call “Truth Telling Days” and when I go through this process, I come up with huge insights. I have come up with five main reasons we all experience the “No Time” drama.


1. We don’t know how to choose
There are too many choices and these choices tempt us to skip lunch, stay up late, work over time and avoid rejuvenation.

2. Lack of boundaries
Although most of us crave freedom, too much freedom creates stress. Think about how stressed your kids get when there are no boundaries. If you allowed your children to choose what to eat and when to go to bed, they would be in serious trouble. Most of us do not have the basic discipline skills to set boundaries for ourselves,

3. Self Betrayal
One of the 7 sins of self betrayal is failing to meet your basic needs. Rest and relaxation is a basic human health need. Every 90 minutes the body needs to rejuvenate. When we feel rushed or overworked the natural tendency is to skip lunch or work late. The adrenalin becomes addictive and damaging to our nervous systems, thus the increased stress.

4. Technology Overload
Technology was supposed to help us save time and make life easier. The reality is, the standards have increased to match the convenience. On top of that, it takes time (learning curve) to master technology. In the days before electricity when it got dark, people went to bed. Then light came and gave us new choices. Then came radio, television, answering machines, faxes, cell phones, pagers, e-mail and the list goes on.

5. Convenience
It’s easier to complain about “no time” than it is to create discipline. It’s risky and therefore not convenient to take charge of your time. Others will approve of you when you say you are “too busy” because they also “too busy.” If you simply learn to say “no” you may lose approval and people won’t understand. When you are busy you feel important and when you have free time you feel edgy if not just downright worthless. If you don’t believe me, look at what happens to busy people who retire without finding another purpose.

The new challenge is for all of us to learn how to choose consciously, set good boundaries, discipline ourselves to take good care of our bodies, and to use technology instead of letting technology use us.

Try this experiment: the next time someone starts talking about how busy they are choose a different response just to see what happens. Say, “Really? I have all the time in the world.” Maybe you’ll start a new trend.

PS…Speaking of truth telling, visit my radio show where Ruth King reveals the
UGLY TRUTH About Business.


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Workaholism: The Entrepreneur’s Drama

January 21, 2008

jpg_fklft.jpgWhen I finally had the courage to quit my blue collar job and start my business I thought I was creating a life I wanted. (Here I am on a forklift on my last day at Kraft Foods.) Notice the uniform and hairnet! Couldn’t wait to get rid of those!

It was exciting to have the freedom to use  time how ever I wanted. I was determined to love my work,

use my talents and create a wonderful life.  No longer was I going to be motivated only by security or a steady paycheck. No longer was I tied to a production line looking up at the clock knowing the best part of the day is realizing it’s time to rotate.  No, I was going to become the master of my destiny. 🙂

 

I named my business ICARE, which stood for Improving Communication and Relationships Everywhere. The idea came from my understanding of how difficult it is to be “in relationship” in the workplace when you are at the bottom of the food chain and your boss only sees you as a number.  My mission was to change the dynamics of communication and relationships in the world of work. I believed life could be good in every area, no matter what your job, status or position.

It didn’t take long before I got speaking engagements across the United States. I got my first national engagement the second year.

Then I started getting articles published in trade journals and magazines.logo_icar.jpg
I started writing for the Springfield Business Journal on a regular basis. I developed products and then I started developing training programs. I even got in to places like NASA and Brookhaven National LAB. The Detroit Free Press even bought my booklets and handed them out at their career fairs. The more opportunities I got the more ideas I had and the harder and longer I worked. People commended me for my determination, my work ethic and my tenacity.

What I and others failed to recognize is that the dream had become an addiction. I became a workaholic. I had traded one type of prison for another. I didn’t’ know where I ended and the business began. Being a creative type and working out of a home office didn’t help.

Even on weekends, there was always another article to write, more research to do, another self-help seminar to sign up for, another product to create and another internet marketing technique to learn. I was compelled to do more, produce more, learn more.

I thought I was disciplined when in fact I was addicted. Now that I’ve come through the other side of withdrawal, (taking weekends off, scheduling time for fun and working only 25 hours per week) I see addiction all around me.

Being busy is the new status symbol. The busier you are, the more worthy you feel. Being busy is an excuse you can use to avoid involvement, relationships and previously agreed upon commitments. In addition busyness is a story others buy into without much argument. After all, they too are busy.

The cure for addiction is discipline; however most of us get the two confused because on the surface addiction and discipline have a lot in common. Both are habits and both discipline and addiction have a push-pull feel of competing desires.

The way to determine if you are disciplined or addicted is to ask yourself two questions.
1. Am I the servant or the master of (fill in the blank).
2. When it comes to (fill in the blank) I selling my soul or feeding my soul?

When you are addicted your urges control you. When you are disciplined, you control your urges. When you are addicted you are the servant. You feel splintered, out of control. You have no choices.

When you are disciplined you are the master. You are in charge. You are aligned. You get to decide.

One of my favorite authors, Gary Zukav in his book Heart of the Soul, lists some ways to know if you are ruled by your workaholic compulsions:

  • Projects are more important than people
  • Impatience
  • Overwhelm
  • No time
  • Feeling fatigued but still can’t stop

Addiction and discipline have an impact on your soul. When you are addicted you sell your soul. When you are disciplined you feed your soul.