All drama has a common component: a lack of clarity. If you’ve ever suffered from the monkey mind, you know what I mean. You can’t make a decision. The cause of the monkey mind is living too far into the past, or too far into the future. The past almost always represents regrets and guilt and the future either equals salvation or anxiety. Here’s how the monkey mind shows up.
Once you think you’ve made a decision, you remember a past failure and you are afraid to have the same experience. Or you continue to accept destructive patterns in a relationship because “that is the way it’s always been,” instead of making changes for how you want the relationship to be in the future.
You do what you don’t want to do because you don’t want to rock the boat. You are afraid of the conflict and guilt that comes with saying, “no.” You fear changing the rules because others won’t understand.
The point is, you make decisions from looking at the past, rather than making decisions that guide you toward a better future.
Your mind is in conflict and you never feel a sense of peace. You mind works overtime analyzing what you you would like to do versus what you used to do or what you think you should do.
The other way your mind keeps you in a state of turmoil is worrying about the future: “What if I do ABC and XYZ happens?” Then you toss around all the ideas until you are exhausted. You either have an unrealistic sense of hope, (the island equals salvation) or an unrealistic sense of anxiety and dread. This split keeps you spinning on indecision and frustration.
Obsessive mind drama results in procrastination that keeps you spinning in a circle or constant disappointment and lack of trust in yourself. You didn’t reach the goal. You should have known better. Reaching the goal didn’t help you feel any better and now you have another past memory of failure.
Do you see the vicious cycle?
The way to eliminate this mind drama of indecision is to make decisions in the zone.
The zone is best described by visualizing a number line. In the middle of the number line is zero. On the right is 1, 2, 3, and so on to infinity. On the left of zero is negative 1, 2, and 3 and so on.
Zero represents the present moment, no past and no future. If you can live your life in the zone between negative 2, and positive 2, you can easily make decisions and let go of the mind drama that keeps you stuck in the past or worried about the future.
The farther you live in the past, the more regret, guilt and worry you experience. The farther you live into the future the more worry and anxiety you experience. When you live between negative 2 and positive 2 you are learning from the past, only glancing back to apply lessons already received. When you glance ahead to positive 2 you are preparing for the future, but acting in the now.
Eckhart Tolle, one of the top spiritual thought leaders of our time says that suffering cannot survive without time. The past is an identity and the future is an illusion. When you narrow that gap and live in the zone, all suffering ends, and life becomes fulfilling and productive.
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