This week I watched ABC reality show “True Beauty,” a beauty contest with a twist: The contestants were being secretly watched and judged, not only on their physical beauty, but also on their inner beauty.
Each week the contestants had to complete tasks of physical fitness, photo shoots, and interviews, however there was always a hidden challenge.
For example on one particular interview the interviewer opened the opportunity for the interviewee to gossip about the other participants.
On an another assignment a waiter spilled drinks on the contestants and the camera zoomed in on their aggravation and disgust.
The judges sat in the secret room watching instant replays while talking about the contestant’s character, attitude, and inner beauty.
Week by week two people ended up in the “hall of beauty” to see who would get eliminated. The loser then got to see hidden film of their rude behavior, attitude problems, disrespect and other qualities that detract from inner beauty.
I know…a lot of people are going to judge me because of watching a reality show, but the REALITY is, there is a LOT to be learned about life and human nature if you watch from a different perspective.
For example, last night the three remaining contestants, all competing for the final prize of $100,000 and a chance to be positioned in People magazine, finally became aware of the hidden cameras.
They were invited into the secret room where they were shown excerpts of their behaviors, teamwork, and relationship building skills throughout the course of the contest.
Joel, arguably the most physically fit and most passionate was disturbed at what he saw. After watching clips of himself being sarcastic, critical, disrespectful, and throwing his team members “under the bus” a couple of times, Joel said something quite profound: ” You can’t take a few snapshots of someone’s life and say that is the whole person.
Here’s what I would say to Joel if I was a judge:
So true Joel. But didn’t you do that when you told Chelsea, your fellow competitor “I don’t like you, so stay away from me.” All Chelsea did to earn your judgment was tell a joke that you didn’t think was funny. Did you take the time to understand her? Did you try to look at her as a many-faceted person before making your judgment of her worthiness?
Actually Joel’s words gave me something to think about.
Isn’t it true that all of us make judgments on one or two snapshots of a person? All of us are multi-faceted. We are more than our behaviors and more than our outer beauty.
This show was a lesson in Self-Mastery more than anything else. I really do believe we can learn from reality TV. I believe beauty is more than skin deep and I believe we get what we put out there.