You teach what you need to learn.
That thought gave me comfort after a technical glitch I encountered during one of my Signature Series Tele-seminars.
Yep…I punched the wrong button and muted myself.
After all the work to write the copy, prepare for the program, invite the guests, only to disappoint.
The Drama happens, but YOUR DRAMA is always a teacher. Here are four things I had the opportunity to learn because of my mistake!
1. The Drama happens
2. Your Drama is your teacher
3. Building relationships requires risk
4. In the end it’s all about trust
The Drama Happens
You’ve heard me say “The Drama” is what happens in the gap. Any time you are working on a goal you have a gap…where you are versus where you want to be.
Things often go wrong in the gap. Your boat springs a leak. You get stuck on the rock. (You plan on hosting a tele-seminar but you screw up. You lose the call or press the wrong button. ) It is what it is. The problem is when you create resistance for yourself in the gap. When you are fortunate enough to notice the resistance you can still benefit from “The Drama” because you now have a teacher.
Your Drama is Your Teacher
There’s a difference between “The Drama” and “Your Drama.” “The Drama” is the unwanted situation, “Your Drama” is your reaction to the unwanted situation. Eckhart Tolle (one of my favorite authors) says if you want to know how conscious you are, look at how you react when things don’t go your way.
Ouch! I have to admit I was mad at myself. I had a “drama” reaction. (It wasn’t really that big, and it only lasted three minutes.) I was able to give my listeners the recording but nonetheless, I did experience a fair amount of resistance. I didn’t like the idea of my listeners see me make a big mistake, even if the call was a freebie. I pride myself on “delivering” and being professional. I also pride myself on being able to be authentic in relationships so this leads to my next point.
Building Relationships Require Risk
You have to let people in if you want a real relationship. You have to be willing to be human; to make mistakes and to tell the truth instead of blame your mistakes on something else when it really was your fault. (I so wanted to find someone or SOMETHING to blame,) but not this time. I knew it was me.
If you want others to trust you, you have to be willing to own your good, your bad and your ugly. You have to let people who view you as “the teacher” see that you still have lessons to learn too.
In fact, if you are really really really teaching you will find that you teach what you need to learn and life gives you the opportunity to own it if you are willing to trust.
In the End, it’s all About Trust
If you are willing to trust that everything happens, happens for your good, you can immediately release resistance. If you trust your clients and do right by them, they also will stand by you. Perhaps that’s why I had so many who had signed up for the call give me a note of thanks to get the link. And, perhaps the relationship and trust is the reason so many of my callers were holding out and hanging on a dead mute line for over 23 minutes.
I’m grateful for life’s lessons and the community of friends and clients who are living and learning the SYD Methodology.