Reclaim Your Power with these Four Steps
Sick and tired of the wall-street-financial-frenzy-bailout DRAMA? It’s easy to let negative news suck you into a whirlwind of fear and frenzy. It’s easy to forget that your number one job in the face of an apparent crisis is to take care of yourself.
You can’t take care of yourself or make good decisions when you panic, think irrationally or let your energy drain with useless chatter about how bad things are. These four action steps help you reclaim your power.
1. Master your mindset
2. Master your inner dialogue
2. Become a creator
Master your mindset
Get control of your mind instead of letting it control you. Excessive exposure to the daily news is unnecessary, as is obsessive conversations about the current situation. Think about how much productivity and wasted time is due to fear and projection about future doom and gloom.
1. Set a time to catch the news, and then go about your life.
2. Refuse to get into mind games about future problems
3. Become an observer instead of a participant.
4. Practice deep breathing, exercise and other positive outlets
Master your inner dialogue
Everyone has an inner dialogue. Scientists say we think about 60,000 thoughts per day and over 85-90 percent of them are either repetitive or negative. Probably most of us are experiencing a background noise that sounds something like this
- I might lose my job
- What if I can’t retire when I want
- Our government is corrupt
- They better get something done
And so on it goes. None of these thoughts are constructive. A good way to start gaining power is to master your communication. The best advice is to create a mantra so that you can rewire your brain. Here are some good ones.
- All of my needs are met
- This too shall pass
- Nothing lasts forever, not even problems
Completely eliminate statements such as “that’s not fair” or “this always happens to me.” Instead, face what is and make wise decisions. When someone else starts a conversation that triggers your fear, you can get drawn into the addiction or you can simply say, “the drama stops here,” and you can refuse to spiral down.
Become a Creator
Victims feel that they have no choices, while creators always look for the opportunity, the lesson or the options. To learn how to respond rather than react, recognize your choices so that you are prepared for any unfortunate situation.
1. Talk to your financial planner
2. List the areas where you would be willing to scale down if need be
3. Register to vote
4. Brush up your resume
5. Make a list of your skills, talents and experiences
6. Make a list of all of your blessings and opportunities
Being proactive makes you feel a sense of control instead of a sense of panic. In addition, reminding yourself of all that you have already created for yourself is a great mood booster and a reminder that you can create what ever is necessary to move forward.
Keeping your attitude in check is good for your health and increases your personal productivity. Too much negativity produces stress, anxiety and illness. Even recalling an angry experience for as much as five minutes, suppresses the immune system for as much as six hours. Imagine what happens to your attitude and your health when you watch CNN all day long and hear nothing but negativity.
Attitudes of appreciation increase circulation and promote regular heart rhythms. Which do you want? Only you can choose what you focus on. Here are some tips for focus.
1. Instead of complaining, ask for what you want or make a new decision.
2. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.
3. Instead of projecting into the future, focus on the now.
4. Separate fact from fiction
5. When researching, listen to all points of view rather than being closed minded.
Instead of following mob mentality, focus on getting the facts. It’s easy to listen to someone you admire, whether it’s Rush Limbaugh, your preacher or your dad. Be your own authority and look at all sides of an issue so that you don’t get off focus and swept up in the tidal waves of negativity. Remind yourself that there may be a bigger picture than what is immediately apparent.
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