The gap is the distance between where you are and where you want to be. You’re in a row boat paddling to an island. Your island is 50 miles away, 500 miles away or 5000 miles away.
The gap is a good thing. If there is a gap between where you are and where you want to be, it means that you have a vision and you know the distance.
If you don’t even know where you want to be but you are still unhappy you are in the first life tragedy. The first tragedy is that you know you want something more but you don’t know what it is.
The First Tragedy
In the first tragedy you realize you don’t have a vision at all but you are unsatisfied with your current situation, be it a relationship, a job or a life calling. In the first tragedy you don’t know what you want but you know that what you have isn’t “it.”
The Second Tragedy
Once you know what you want you enter into the second tragedy: You know what it is that you want but you don’t believe it’s possible. In other words, you see the island, but the gap between you and your island is 5000 miles away therefore it seems impossible.
All you have is two little oars to get you there. (You haven’t yet learned about motors, or sails or other means of helping you get to that island that seems so far away). You are in tragedy number two either because you haven’t told yourself the truth about where you really are, or you don’t know HOW to get to the island therefore it doesn’t seem doable.
To get out of dream-land you must eventually pass through tragedy number two and into tragedy number three.
The Third Tragedy
The third tragedy is when you know what you want (you see the island) and you believe it’s possible (the gap is only 500 miles away not 5000) but you aren’t sure you are willing to do what it takes to get to the island.
Now you are still uncomfortable but the difference is that you can now identify a real gap between where you are and where you want to go. Once you pass through to the third tragedy you must get past the transitional tragedy. The transitional tragedy is when you know what you want, you believe it’s possible and you now must make the commitment to set sail. If you want to move past the transitional tragedy you must be willing to step outside of your comfort zone. This is where the real journey begins.