Before I was transformed by the SYD methodology I used to get into a fair amount of relationship drama. Someone would do something to me then I would try to find a way to “pay them back.”
Many people still believe in “pay backs.” In fact, I heard a man say the other day, “Everyone understands pain,” as a way to justify playing “tit for tat.”
In other words, since you did this to me (tat) I will do that (tit) to you…tit for tat.
One way to keep the drama brewing is to play “tit for tat.”
Sure…it’s human nature to say, “I want him to know how it feels…”
This kind of attitude only justifies the game-playing. (In your personal life it spells divorce, in your professional life it could mean a lawsuit.
This kind of drama occupies your mind, puts you back in the fog, and takes you completely off of your goal.
Although this sounds like “relationship advice” in reality it is business advice.
Drama is anything that is an obstacle to your peace and prosperity.
Think about how much more you could get done if your mind was focused on your goal instead of what someone did to you?
Here is a tip to stop the drama: Let your choices be based on who you are not on what everyone else is doing. Keep you eyes on the island. Keep rowing. Don’t look back and spend precious time telling everyone what someone did.
Another way of saying it is, let your choices be based on how you want to represent yourself and not on what others should have done, or have done to you.
To your integrity…
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